As with any sex act or position, there are all kinds of ways one can go about doing hand stuff. Here is a guide to giving the best hand jobs!

1. Make eye contact.
It doesn't matter what type of sex you're having—eye contact is like an all-encompassing sexual secret weapon. Checking in with your partner through eye contact tells them you are connected with them [and] their pleasure. 

2. Experiment with different stroking patterns.
There are various ways you can mix up your standard stroke. Here are a few techniques:
Hold the shaft of the penis firmly in one hand and use the palm of the other hand to rub around the head of the penis as if you are giving it a polished shine with lube. Start slow and increase the speed of the motion.
Use both hands to gently stroke the penis in an upward motion from the bottom of the shaft to the head, following one hand after the other.
Place the head of the penis inside of the palm of the hand and wrap the palm around it to grab and stroke the head in an upward motion.

3. Massage their thighs.
Before just grabbing onto the shaft and going at it, start instead by massaging your partner's inner thighs. This area is extremely sensitive, and by rubbing the thighs, you can build a heightened anticipation for pleasure. Try casuallyyyy sweeping over the penis until you hit the belly button, then start again at the inner thighs, working in broad circles. 

4. Or give them an all-over rubdown.
If you have the time or simply want to make things even more erotic, grab some oil or lube and start by massaging your partner’s back, butt, and feet. This helps warm up and prepare the entire body and as you glide over their skin, begin focusing more and more attention on the penis.

5. Get turned on.
Yup, feeling sexually excited yourself will actually make your handies even better. The more aroused you are, the more naturally everything will flow. Your enthusiasm will be palatable, so make sure the pleasure is just as much your own as your partner’s.”

6. Watch them masturbate.
Your partner probably knows some of their favorite ways to be touched, and an easy way to mimic that is by literally just watching them masturbate. If you’re both comfortable with it, a lil show and tell can go a long way. As your partner's going at it, make a mental note of the types of strokes they use and areas they focus on.

7. Get vocal.
The real secret to a great handy is to figure out exactly what your partner wants. Simply asking what they like is one of the most efficient ways to become a pro. Whether your partner prefers lots of lube or just a little (uncircumcised people sometimes enjoy stimulation without lube) or if they like a light touch or firm touch, the best way to figure it out is to ask. 
8. Also hi, hello, please use lube.
Too much friction is a hand job’s main nemesis so it’s a good idea to always have lube on hand, and don’t be afraid to apply it so you can skip any awkward dryness.

9. Get their balls involved.
Try some light ball massage if your partner is into it. The amount of pressure will depend on each person, but don’t shy away from touching their balls, as it can be super pleasurable for them—and make you feel like a sexual rockstar. 
10. And don’t be afraid of a little perineum play…
…Assuming your partner is into it, of course! Not everyone is comfortable with perineum stimulation, so make sure you ask first and get consent before you go there. 

11. Compliment them.
Everyone likes a compliment, so be sure to let your partner know how much you admire them. Tell your lover if their penis looks good, tastes great, feels amazing in your hands or mouth. Some people have a lot of insecurities around their genitals, and it helps to relax and reassure them to know that you are enjoying the experience and not judging them for their size or shape.

12. Use both hands.
If you’ve exhausted the one-hander, try getting all fancy with two hands. Stack both hands on their shaft, one on top of the other. Then, twist your hands slowly in opposite directions, taking time to vary the pressure so you’re also gently stroking and squeezing.

13. Get a rhythm going.
Use an up and down stroking motion up the shaft of your partner’s penis, and then twisting your hands ¼ either way. Once you can tell your partner is about to climax, focus the pressure more toward the head of their penis. 

14. When they’re getting close, just keep doing what you’re doing.
You know how sometimes you’re hooking up with someone and you’re getting close, and then as soon as you tell them you’re about to come they suddenly switch it up on you and now you’re, well, not close? Yeah, that can happen during hand jobs too. Early on, by all means, try out different strokes and techniques, but once you’ve gotten into a good rhythm and can feel your partner is about to orgasm, just keep doing exactly what you're doing.

15. Use ‘natural’ lube...
Aka your spit. It won’t be as long-lasting or slick as the stuff you get at a store, but in a pinch, it’s an economical (and sexy) way to cut down on friction. And there’s no bigger hand job fail than friction. And yup, you can literally just spit on it. It's somehow very sexy, so just go with it.

16. Make it a combo BJ/HJ.
The best blow jobs are those that incorporate the hands, and the same goes for the mouth during hand jobs. It helps you accomplish the previous point about natty lube, and it also gives your hands and all their tired muscles (from, you know, holding a phone all day) a rest.

17. Make it a (consensual!!) surprise.
A huge benefit of a hand job is that it can be done sneakily. We’re not exactly condoning or encouraging doing handies in public places, but if you wanted to get a HJ going while you’re sitting side-by-side on the couch watching a movie, that would be good and acceptable.

18. Stretch it out.
Apply some lube in your other hand, and slowly stretch out the length of the penis with your other hand (your thumb should be pointing down towards the balls). Once your lubed hand nears the top of the penis, you can bring your support hand up and repeat the same slow stretch. Repeat until you’re both impressed by your hand dexterity.

19. Use your fingers.
Sure, it’s called a hand job, but using your finger pads to create a delicate touch can be super stimulating and unexpected. 
20. Keep an eye out for their sweet spots.
The frenulum (under the tip of the penis), the perineum (area just beneath the balls), and the base of the penis are three sensitive spots to pay extra attention to. You’ll want to make sure you stimulate these areas somehow.

21. Read their signals.
Just because you’ve asked them what they like, it doesn’t mean you can zone out and just phone it in until they climax. You’ll also want to pay close attention to their body language during stimulation. 

22. Focus on the head.
Go ahead and reapply your lube here, because you want things very lubed up when you’re stimulating the head of the penis.

23. Make yourself comfortable.
No good partner wants you to get a weird cramp in your wrist, and you’ll enjoy yourself way more as the giver too if you know that you don’t have to stay glued in one position until completion. Sure, they might be soaking it all up, but you’re the star of the show here.

24. Let them finish on you if it sounds hot to you.
One of the hottest ways to cap off a hand job is to offer a part of your body (e.g. breasts, tummy, neck, face, or even feet) for them to cum on—if it sounds hot to you too, ofc. And don't race for the tissues or jump straight into the shower. Tell them how much they turned you on. Take their penis in your hands and give it a gentle caress. Give them a deep, lingering kiss.